A Parents’ Mentality
They were given three days to decide whether they wanted to keep me or not . . .They weren’t sure but when they saw me on the 3rd day, they decided they could do it and took me home.
My parents are the most important influence in my life and they have guided me to be the way I am. They are the reason I am independent. They are the reason I have lived the life I do. No one knew I was going to be born with a disability. When I was born, it was a pretty big shock. There weren’t tests back there so they had no idea that I would be born this way. They were given three days to decide whether they wanted to keep me or not. So they took a couple of days going back and forth asking themselves, ‘do we take her home? Do we leave her in an institution? Do we put her up for adoption?’ They weren’t sure but when they saw me on the 3rd day, they decided they could do it and took me home. Despite those moments of doubt they initially had, they raised me to believe that I could do anything. My parents knew I had a disability and accepted that, but they never let me whine and complain. If I didn’t like something it was, “either you fix it or your figure out a way to deal with it.”
If I wanted to go out for cheerleading, did they think that I could do it? NO, but did they let me try? Sure. Did I think I could play the trumpet? They had questions and they knew everyone else was going to have questions but they let me try it out. But now if they let me try something and I failed, they weren’t there to say ‘I told you so.’ They were there to help me pick up the pieces and encourage me to try again or encourage me to try something else. And they raised both my sisters the same way.